don miller on real masculinity: tony dungy

Don Miller. (Photo credit: Jeremy Cowart on

Don Miller. (Photo credit: Jeremy Cowart on

I like Don Miller. Always have. I’ve read all his books, and I like his conversant style.

So when Don Miller weighed in to the recent “real masculinity” debate (background: here and here and here), he did so with his typical class and style.

Yesterday, I held up Michael Irvin as an example of a Christian advocate in the battle against homophobia. Today, Mr. Miller holds up perhaps the preeminent example of masculinity, leadership, class, and style in the NFL, former Colts Head coach Tony Dungy.

Miller kept it short and simple, without naming names:

In an age where a few celebrity pastors are projecting an immature masculine image, a guy like Tony Dungy reminds us of what a good man looks like. He looks like a sober, mature, thoughtful, strong, disciplined person who brings peace into chaos. It would be easy for some of us guys to get led astray by false teachers who use shame, guilt and ridicule to make themselves feel more manly, but these guys are just covering up their own insecurities. Here’s Coach Dungy talking like a man.

Well said sir, well said. To watch the Dungy video and hear what Coach Dungy had to say, click here.


P.S.: Scholars should also take note of Mr. Miller’s approach to blogging: “Before it becomes a book, it all gets tested here. Forgive the rough patches. Here is the writing in process.” Blogs are the new best places to get free, instant peer-review feedback from a diversity of opinions.

REPORT: 2.5 Million British Men Too Fat To See Their Penis

Dickey-DoNews from the UK is probably not what they want to hear: 2.5 Million British Men Too Fat To See Their Penis.

New research issued by weight-management specialists LighterLife reveals that one in ten British men are unable to see their penis because of their protruding bellies.

The research into the health of the nation’s men revealed that of those people, 43% hadn’t seen their penis in the last two years, without looking in a mirror or bending over, whilst 16% were unable to remember the last time they saw it.

Seriously, this reads more like an Onion article than an actual research study. Yet, here it is.

BTW – in Fresno, we call it a “dickey-do,” because a man’s gut sticks out farther than he dickey do.

why men shouldn’t write advice columns

Why Men Shouldn't Write Advice Columns

Why Men Shouldn't Write Advice Columns

i usually post items like this on my fb account, but this one made me laugh out loud. obviously, men don’t get certain things. had i been the one giving out the advice, i would have told elin (here using the alias ‘sheila’) to tell her husband tiger to knock it off.

does the pill make women want less manly men?

an interesting study by researchers at the university of sheffield suggests that women’s taste in men has shifted from more rugged-looking men to more boyish looking men since the contraceptive pill became available to women 40 years ago. here’s how it works:

Researchers say leading Hollywood actors from forty years ago like Sean Connery and Steve McQueen (top) appear more manly than modern leading men like Brad Pitt and Johnny Depp (bottom). This transition from stronger, angular men to softer, boyish looking men may be due to women's use of the birth control pill.

Scientists have long known that a woman’s taste in men changes over her menstrual cycle.

During the few days each month when women are fertile – around the time of ovulation – they tend to prefer masculine features and men who are more assertive.

On these fertile days, women are also more attracted to men who are ‘genetically dissimilar’, Dr Alvergne said. Picking a partner whose genetic make-up is unlike their own increases the chances of having a healthy child.

On days when women are not fertile, their tastes swing towards more feminine, boyish faces and more caring personalities, researchers have shown.

However, if women are taking the Pill they no longer have fertile days.

That means they no longer experience the hormonal changes that make them more attracted to masculine men and those with dissimilar genetic make-up.

the researchers explain that this is why leading hollywood actors have slowly transitioned from rugged angular confident/cocky men to boyish, softer, men in recent decades. evolutionarily, it makes sense; if you chemically alter a woman’s hormonal drive, she will not be as (dare i say it?) horny as she would be (consciously or subconsciously) as she might be were she not on the pill. i agree with the researchers that much of human sexuality is still very carnal; despite our cerebral and rational development, we are still the product of millions of years of genetic evolution, driven by the single attribute that all living things share: reproduction. scent and non-verbal signals may be dulled or ignored by our rational processes, but they still exist and play a role in mate selection and reproduction. because genetic diversity is a selective advantage (vs. the extreme alternative, incest), women still (again, consciously or subconsciously) seek out males that can protect, care for, and provide for them (and produce children) regardless of how far the women’s liberation movement has progressed. as a strong, powerful, progressive hollywood leading lady once told me at her dinner table, ‘confidence is very, very attractive, but women can still smell arrogance a mile away.’ likewise, men still seek out (again, consciously or subconsciously) women who can care for, provide for, and comfort them. for both sexes, producing offspring always lies at the heart of the species.

however, the findings could also have something to do with the fact that as women have earned their rightful place alongside men as equals, they began finding attractive men who were not the traditional domineering type. women began to prefer men who treated them as equals, not subordinates. these men may have tended to be less aggressive, less angular, less traditionally ‘macho’ men, who were comfortable with their masculinity and were not always out to show off to the other males in the room – a trait where being big, strong, hairy, and angular is stereotypically and evolutionarily advantageous.

i agree that the transition has taken place. the question now is whether the transition from strong, domineering, tough guys to smart, sensitive, cute guys is the result of birth control, or the result of the continued march of social evolution, gender equity, and technological progress that makes reliance on tough, strong guys less needed. and is the transition a bad thing? as one who has been described as a mountain metrosexual (looks like a mountain man but speaks and acts like a civilized urbanite), i don’t really care. ;-)

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